Sinong pipiliin mo. Ang taong mahal mo o ang taong mahal ka?
If you're in the verge of this, two different people and you are to choose between them, who would you pick? Well most would pick the latter. Mas mararamdaman mong secured ka and mas posible na it'll be a two way relationship. Not just you loving. Matututunan mo din naman daw syang mahalin. Pero matututunan nga ba? It is your brain that tells you who really to love, but its your heart that says who you really love. Your brain can't just teach your heart who to place inside. These are two conflicting ideas kung sino ang dapat sundin. Eto yung decision na madaling pag-isipan pero mahirap panindigan. Eto madalas yung pinipili ng mga taong ayaw ng sakit ng ulo at sakit ng puso. Ayaw nilang masaktan sa huli na baka hindi naman sila mahalin ng taong mahal nila kaya pinili nila ung taong mahal sila kasi dito may kasiguraduhan na sasaya sila. Pero eto din ung decision na oo sasaya ka, pero hanggang kelan? Baka kasi natutuwa ka lang sa taong mahal ka, sa kabutihang pinapakita nia, sa sayang nararamdaman mo dahil may nagmamahal sayo. Pero hanggang kelan to, pano kung makita mo ulit yung taong mahal mo, baka mapunta ka ulit sa pagpili. Pano kung hindi kana ulit masaya sa taong mahal ka. Ano pa yung panghahawakan mo at nagstay ka pa din sakanya. Dahil mahal ka niya? Hindi ba parang isang walang kwentang rason yun. Dahil sasaktan mo lang kayong dalawa sa katagalan. Lalo na't pagdumating kana sa puntong bakit nga ba siya ang pinili mo. Kapag ito yung desisyong pinili mo, dapat handa ka na din na turuan ung puso mong mahalin sya. Pero bago ka pumasok sa relasyon na to, andun kana sa prosesong nag-uumpisa ka ng mahalin sya. Dahil hindi tanga ang puso mo para sundin ang utak mo na mahalin nalang basta basta ang isang tao kung hindi naman talaga kaya mahalin ng puso mo ang taong ito. Pwede ding dahil hindi mo magawa mahalin ang taong ito ay dahil may laman ng iba ang puso mo. Sabi nga nila, sa pag ibig, sino ang pinakamatinding kalaban? third party? flirts? goodlooking and heartthrobs (crush mo, yung patay na patay ka.lolz)? hindi. Yung pagmamahal bago ikaw. So kung may taong nandyan na sa puwang na yan. Turuan mo munang alisin ng sarili mo ang taong yan sa puso mo bago mo mailagay ang bagong taong ito sa bagong buhay mo. Kahit ilang taon o dekada pa ang gugulin mo sa pagtuturo sa puso mo kung meron ng laman ito, para kang musmos na nagpupumilit maging matanda -- pwede pero panlabas lang.
Kung ang taong mahal mo naman ang pipiliin. Walang kasiguraduhan na mahal ka din nia o magiging kayo ba talaga. Para mo na ding sinabi na handa kang mag-isa at kakaririn mo ang maging loner sakaling it would not turn out well. Pero sila yung mga taong risk-taker o yung handang sumugal. Matapang sila in the sense na paninindigan nilang sumaya kung saan magiging masaya yung puso nila. Mas nakakahinga sila ng maluwag dahil hindi nila kelangang turuan ang sarili nilang ipilit ang isang tao sa puso nila. Mas nakakangiti sila ng maluwag makita ang mahal nilang masaya at hindi ipilit ngumiti sa taong alam nilang hindi nila mahal.
When you're in this dilemma, it is not just a one-sitting decision making to create. This will have an impact with your emotions and personal life. Think of it for its long run effect and not just for what you have today. Yes you may be happy with your decision today, but for how long? How would it go with the people involve? It is good to think of yourself first but then bear also in mind that the people around you are human too, they've got emotions too and its not just something that you can just messed up with. Whatever you do to the people involve bears something, it may be little things, may be not that big nor significant but time will come that it will have a bearing when these pile up and become relevant for them to make their decisions too and can make the story the other way around. Them being the agonist and you just a passersby.
There is no ideal happy ending waiting for everyone. One may end up being alone. Another may be in an undeserve situation. There may be couple who are not really compatible for each other. Or they may be compatible for each other but they chose to partways for a variety of personal reasons. Whatever situation one may be, it is them who made those decisions bringing them in to whatever situation they are at present. It is them and only them to blame with whatever event they are presently in to. So be careful with each descision one makes. Rome is not made in a day. Neither your future and happiness is. So be wise with each piece of it. Give time minding each pros and cons entailed with each action you make and with each person you've decided to be with.
For that happy ending. It is when two people patch things up in their relationship. They cared to share compromises, theit imperfections -- this is where happy ending starts.
Here are my two cents to share with this situation. Though off topic for this holiday. This is usually a random situation asked by random people.
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and yours truly is writing this copying from my phone due to the fact that i can't create it here in my lappie because its killing my eyes for the moderate stuttering of its Lcd.
**if there are errors ill edit it again.still have a final run for this.in fairness, its harder to write in tagalog than in english .. words seems not to fit at all. i'll revise this soon lolz.
